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Unleashing Your Inner Billionaire with Debbie Dobbins

In this episode of 'The Science of Self,' host introduces Debbie Dobbins, the author of 'Your Inner Billionaire.' Debbie explains her philosophy of inner success, emphasizing the importance of mindset, emotions, and gratitude in achieving personal freedom and abundance. She shares her journey through significant life challenges, including a cancer diagnosis, and how these experiences helped her develop a deeper appreciation for holistic wellbeing. Debbie discusses the concepts of the inner billionaire, the holistic approach to success, the science behind gratitude, and the power of mindset changes and neuroplasticity. She also explores the practical application of binaural beats in meditation and mindfulness. The conversation is rich with insights about personal growth, overcoming limiting beliefs, and fostering a higher vibrational frequency through gratitude and generosity.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

00:33 Debbie Dobbins: The Queen of Magic

01:34 Awakening Your Inner Billionaire

04:36 The Power of Gratitude

09:25 Mindfulness and Meditation

24:38 Understanding Frequencies and Vibrations

30:38 Understanding Your Money Story

30:57 The Science of Brainwave Patterns

31:34 Impact of Early Experiences on Beliefs

33:42 Introduction to Binaural Beats

35:37 Creating Your Own Binaural Beats

38:42 Spirituality vs. Religion

43:11 The Power of Stories and Beliefs

48:16 Personal Journey and Manifestation

52:15 Building Abundance and Gratitude

56:15 Practical Tips for Abundance

01:01:20 Final Thoughts and Recommendations

Transcript
Russell Newton:

Hello listeners.

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Welcome back to The Science of Self.

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Thanks for joining us today.

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I'm happy to introduce to you

our guest, Debbie Dobbins,

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author of Your Inner Billionaire.

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And don't worry, there's gonna be

some business talk here, but this

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is not, again, a business podcast.

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It's a podcast about, uh,

individual success and overcoming

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inner demons and outer obstacles.

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So, Debbie, with that, take a few minutes.

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Please introduce us, uh, to yourself and

tell us what we need to know about you.

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Debbie Dobbins: So I've

recently called myself.

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I, I am, I am the queen of magic.

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So we'll start with that conversation.

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And I got so much conversation with people

when I'd say, I am the queen of magic.

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They think I'm a witch.

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And that is absolutely not what that is.

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And when I refer to the word magic,

I'm talking about the magic that

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we all have inside of us, whether

it be through the mindset or more

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importantly, all of it contained

in our body through our emotions.

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And so at this point in in life, I'm

calling myself the barefoot thought

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leader because I love being barefoot.

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Like I've spent a lot of time in Dale,

Carmen, Mexico, on the Caribbean.

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Which is where I wrote my

book, your Inner Billionaire.

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And I've had people say to me quite

often, uh, that actually I don't

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really wanna be a billionaire.

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And I, I realize that I don't wanna

be a billionaire either in my bank

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account, but I wanna be a billionaire

inside so that I enjoy life from the

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same perspective that billionaires

do, which is the sense of freedom.

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So my, my primary, uh, clients are women,

and I help women awaken their inner

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billionaire because it isn't a journey

of finding and discovering yourself.

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It's about revealing yourself.

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And when you shared at the

beginning that it's about enjoying

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our lives, I, we really, really,

really have the opportunity.

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Every single human on the planet

has the same opportunity to create

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a life of their dreams, to do

beer or have whatever they want.

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And that's the essence of the book.

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And I approach it from a different

place than just mindset because

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for years I've been on this, uh,

self-improvement, metaphysical journey,

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science, quantum physics, all of that.

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And what I've realized is

it's not just about the mind.

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The mind is just one component.

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All of everything that we have, all

of our memories, especially our money

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stories, are contained in our body.

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So really it is your nervous system,

your body that is your real bank account.

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If you really understand the

component of how you're driving,

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are driving through the world,

it's actually through your body.

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Thus, we are in these human bodies.

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So my mission in life, is to

have everyone reveal their inner

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billionaire, because everybody has one.

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And it's just a matter of revealing.

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It isn't about chasing anything, it's

just about uncovering who you truly are.

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Russell Newton: Okay.

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A real billionaire, if we're talking in

terms of dollars, obviously has none of

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those worries that the rest of us have

about paying bills and keeping food

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on the table or paying for the house,

keeping the, the roof fixed and so forth.

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The inter billionaire has those

resources so that if the roof is

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leaking, what's the approach then?

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the outer billionaire would fix the roof.

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Your inner billionaire.

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If the roof is leaking, what do they do?

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Debbie Dobbins: Well, first of all,

I, I approached this from a holistic,

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uh, place because when I wrote

the book, I was telling my story.

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I wrote this as a love letter to myself,

that I've been an abundance teacher for

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probably 30 years, and I did approach

it of how to make money and how to have

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a mindset, which is really fantastic.

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We need all of that.

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And yet, I was diagnosed with cancer

about six years ago, and what I

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found was I didn't have medical

insurance, even though that seems to

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be a popular thing to get these days.

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I didn't have it and I ended up being.

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Flat broke, so it was flat

on my back and flat broke.

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And I often say in this book, it's

about those moments when you have these

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critical problems show up in your life.

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Literally, I was on food stamps,

I know what that feeling is like.

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It's not as if I really understand

being an inner billionaire from the

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perspective that I've had all these

opportunities in my life, I actually

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have been where that person would be

without the ability to pay for the roof.

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And the fact is, is that you can focus

on the poverty of not being able to fix

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the roof, because the more you focus

on that, the more the roof won't be

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fixed, or you can begin to adopt some

of the principles I share in the book.

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Which begins with gratitude, which I, uh,

I have two chapters on gratitude, because

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gratitude is the gateway to everything.

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is the gateway to everything.

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I can't say that enough.

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So even if the roof is falling down and

you don't have the money, the first thing

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you have to do, and this is probably

gonna, everybody's gonna go, oh, that's

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impossible, is you have to be grateful.

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You have to be grateful.

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This is the situation that I'm in.

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What do I do next?

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Because once you're grateful, then you can

begin to see potential impossibilities.

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The opposite of of grateful is lack.

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And if you begin to focus on, I don't

have enough money, I don't know where

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I'm gonna find my answer, woe is me.

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This is the most horrible

life I could ever experience

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and all that negative energy.

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We'll create more of that.

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So it's all about the

frequencies that we live in.

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And if your frequency is that of lack

or poverty as like I say, I like to

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say, then you will create more of that.

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Because what we ex, what

we focus on expands.

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You will never think your way out of

poverty You will only begin to feel

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and see that freedom of abundance

once you start to focus on it.

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Russell Newton: Uh, what's

the quote, uh, said the man.

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Until he saw a man who had no feet.

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Right?

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Uh, I can't remember the beginning of it.

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Debbie Dobbins: yeah, yeah.

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Russell Newton: Um.

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Debbie Dobbins: But that's, that's it too.

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And believe me, there are days,

um, on end where my body is not

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the same after the treatment that

the medical community gave to me.

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Trust me.

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And I don't go into it on situations

like this, but there are days

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when I think, oh my gosh, why me?

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Right?

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And then I think, and one of my.

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My role models, if you will, it's, he

is not a role model, but the person

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that always comes up to me in my mind

when I'm having that day, like literally

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when things are not functioning the

way they should in my body, which

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there's plenty of people out there

that have these invisible, I call

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'em diseases, whether it be IBS or.

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Uh, gluten intolerances,

all kinds of things.

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You can't see them, but they're

living these quiet lives of

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really desperation because they

just haven't found an answer yet.

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But Christopher Reeves is the gentleman

that always comes up for me because

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listen, he was paralyzed from the neck

down and he did not stop living his life.

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There's plenty of examples besides

Christopher Reeves out there.

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And here's the thing is that

we can always build a story

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however we wanna build a story.

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That's the thing about our brains, and

that's why I do love neuroplasticity

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so much, is because you can shift and

morph that you can create new, new

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grooves in your brain anytime you want.

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And yet you still have to start with

this body by feeling that emotionally

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because it's the frequency of our

emotions in our body that actually

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project what we're seeing on the outside.

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So just to use the roof example.

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If I'm sitting in the middle of my

living room and I have a leaky roof,

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and I see that I have no money,

and if I start to focus on all the

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negative, I'm gonna see more of that.

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If I begin to say, wow, this, I'm

really grateful for this because

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every opportunity in my life, which

seemed like a challenge, ended up

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being something magical for me.

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But it's only in hindsight

sometimes that you see it that way.

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And I have a actual, meditation

that I share with my clients.

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It's called, it's a seven

minute meditation, and it's

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everything is Working in My Favor.

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if we wake up in the morning,

it's a se, like I said, it's

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a seven minute meditation.

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Um, and you listen to that and

you believe that your, your

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life, everything is working in

your favor no matter what it is.

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This is the problem, is that we have

built stories around everything that

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we see, and we have compartmentalized

it to an opinion of what that looks

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like or what that should mean for us.

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And when I talk about.

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Revealing your inner billionaire

at the beginning of every course

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that I've ever taught is you have

to completely change who you are.

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You will not, you will not see a

difference in your life unless you become

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a different person than you were the day

before, because the day before created

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who you are today and what you see today.

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So it really is so important for us

as a human species to stop blaming and

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pointing fingers and complaining, and

start really operating at a very high,

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bright, high vibration, which is gratitude

and giving, and loving and communication

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and connection, and all these good, happy

qualities, but they truly do build a life

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around you that is absolutely sensational.

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Russell Newton: No matter

the circumstance, it can be

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sensational, no matter where you

are, what's happening to you.

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Debbie Dobbins: right.

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It's all here and here.

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Russell Newton: So let's stay on

gratitude for a few minutes, because

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we all know if you've looked at any of

the research, our listeners have looked

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at any of the research or the studies.

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It's proven scientifically that

gratitude benefits you on a moment by

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moment basis through your daily life.

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A lot of times when I first

think of gratitude, we talk,

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let's stick on the leaky roof.

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We'll, we'll beat this one into the dirt.

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Uh, but if I have a leaky roof and

I tell someone, or someone is told

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that they should experience gratitude

as you were speaking, I realized my

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mindset goes to, okay, the roof is

leaking, but only in this one spot.

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So I'm grateful that I have a roof

over the 99% that's not leaking.

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But what just came to mind as you were

talking, I'm not just thankful for the

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99% of the roof that works, but I'm

really need to be thankful, need to

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have gratitude for the whole itself,

for the bad it's not being grateful

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for all the nice things that overshadow

by preponderance of the evidence.

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The one bad thing.

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It is the bad thing itself is where

the gratitude needs to be directed.

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Debbie Dobbins: Yeah.

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Yeah.

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So I, as I said, I have two chapters

on gratitude because it's such a

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huge, well, I call it a gateway.

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And so the first chapter on gratitude

is about the science behind it, because

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I really nerd out over science, and

as you just stated, there is just

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volumes now of scientific research.

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Like this gives me goosebumps when I talk

about it because there's so much science.

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I love science and spirituality,

or consciousness, if you will,

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because they're the, they're

two sides of the same coin.

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They really, truly are.

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And so the science is important for

us to understand that, that actually

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we, where our body is just a bunch

of chemicals and hormones, and so

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when we activate essence inside of

this body of gratitude, the vibratory

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frequency, just up levels, we feel all

of these wonderful feel-good chemicals.

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All of the dopamine and

all of those good things.

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So the science behind it is already there.

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And part of being in that frequency of

gratitude is this feeling and this emotion

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of why, why would I want to even be

grateful, as you said, for a leaky roof?

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okay, there's a lot of people in

the world that don't have a roof.

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Literally, they don't have a roof at all.

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And it's not about comparing,

'cause I don't like to compare

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on any level, but it's also about

realizing how much we already have.

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Because if we can't get into that space

of acknowledging and being grateful

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for what we already have, I have

this saying, and I learned it from a,

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um, an abundance teacher years ago.

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Uh, her name was Edwin Gaines.

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And she says, listen, honey.

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If God can't trust you with

what you've got right now, you

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aren't getting a whole lot more.

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And I love that so much because one

of the things is we get to this place

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where we get a little like we deserve.

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fact is, is we deserve to be happy.

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don't deserve stuff.

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And stuff comes when you become happy.

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When you're grateful where you are,

where you're planted bloom, where

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you're planted, then life just

becomes absolutely sensational.

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It opens up in these amazing ways.

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And then from a spiritual perspective,

say, uh, I don't know who the they person

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is, probably anonymous, that the only

prayer that is ever needed is thank you.

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So if we are living our life I am

so grateful for, first of all, a lot

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of people, the only thing they can

say they're grateful for is getting

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up in the morning so that they're,

you know, they're above ground.

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That's fantastic.

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One of the things I teach in the book

though, is about how you're grateful.

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So I used to do this years ago.

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I have a, I had to start a little

program, uh, the, um, abundance

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recipe or I forgot what I called

it anyways, it was about writing 10

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things you're grateful for, right?

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So that can become very routine and rote

what I'm talking about, that gratitude

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that you feel all the way down to

your toenails and then you create that

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energetic vibrational, um, frequency

that is unstoppable for creating

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more good that you see in your life.

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So I really wanna encourage people

to say, well, why am I grateful?

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What is make?

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I could look around, I tell this

to clients, look around the room

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that you're in, and I could pick.

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different things or more out of this

room and say, oh my gosh, I'm so

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grateful and blessed I even have that.

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I mean, I have so much electronic

equipment, it's obscene.

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But the fact is, is that I am so

grateful for every one and every bit

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of it because it allows me to do things

that I can make an impact on the world.

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But when I was broken on food

stamps, I was just grateful

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that I had the food stamps.

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Literally, I could say, this is

how much money I can go to the

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grocery store and spend on myself

and make myself healthy again.

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It's never about how much of anything.

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It's just really diving into

the gratitude for what is

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happening in our lives right now.

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And I can assure you there are so many

people on the planet that don't have

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near what we have, especially in the

United States, that we get a little.

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things for granted and

it's about not doing that.

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It's about really appreciating everything

that's in your life right here, right

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now that will allow more to show up.

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Russell Newton: So to

cultivate the gratitude, do you

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recommend a gratitude journal?

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As you might read a lot of places, it, it

sounds like you might, but you might not.

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I couldn't tell which direction

you were headed there.

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You said a list of 10 things, but

that can become rote and standard.

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It's like, oh, I like that lamp.

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Thanks for this microphone stand.

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Uh, this pen works.

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That's good.

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Okay.

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There's my 10.

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Now I can grumble through

the rest of the day.

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Debbie Dobbins: Yeah, and

that was a little bit how I

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was probably 25 years ago.

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Um, and it's all, any type of

gratitude is good more you can

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resonate in your body with it.

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So everyone is.

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Well, a lot of people, I

wouldn't say everybody.

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I have a family member that

doesn't understand how to,

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um, tap into their feelings.

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But we do have these emotions and it,

the emotions are the things that cause

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the chemical reactions in our body

that, that then charge up the frequency.

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And this I call our brains our

little now because the AI is

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connected to the nervous system.

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So it really is about

slowing down, number one.

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So whether you're gonna do a

journal, you're gonna do it through

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meditation or you're gonna do it

just by being out in the world.

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I'll drive in my car and I

can bring myself to tears.

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Literally because I am so grateful.

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in a little tiny town in Texas

that most people would say,

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well, I don't wanna live there.

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But the fact is, is that I find those

slices of life throughout my day.

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I don't have to do it formally, although

I do, it doesn't, there's no structure

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to gratitude, and I think that's the most

important thing to answer your question,

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there is not a structure to gratitude.

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It's whatever is going to allow you

to feel that feeling of appreciation

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for whatever it is in your life.

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So I can feel that

sense walking in a park.

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I have a.

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As I said, I live in a small town

and we have a manmade waterfall.

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Like people make fun of it, and I was

there yesterday and the spray from

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the waterfall coming onto my face like

this doesn't cost any money for me to

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walk to the park, go to the waterfall

and sit beside it and feel that, and

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just the absolute of joy that Emos

from me because I have this opportunity

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to be in an environment that some

people take for granted that I just

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think is beautiful and wonderful.

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Same thing, it's spring right now.

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Spring in Texas is wildflowers.

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It makes me so happy and I'm

so grateful to be in nature.

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Nature is the most beautiful thing

on the planet to share with us.

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I was, uh, my niece has a private school

and they're incubating chicks, right?

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So they got eggs, so for half an hour

almost, we sat with her and her children

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watching these chickens being hatched.

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The miracle of that and how hard it is

for them to come out of that and how,

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you know, they're all wet and they're

exhausted and they fall down and then they

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get back up and it's just, to me, it's

the little things that we take so much for

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granted that if we slow down and say, wow,

the world is a magical place to live in.

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That's what gratitude is.

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Absolutely.

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it's, and, and,

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yeah, mindfulness is, that's a, a perfect

description to put it together in that

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way because the opposite of that is

busyness going fast and being really,

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um, I call it, we, we are addicted to.

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and, um, behaviors.

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for instance, um, because I teach women

and women have really gotten the message

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that you have to drive hard and be very

aggressive to get to the success ladder.

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And the fact of the matter is, is that

for all people, all masculine and all

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feminine beings, there is the masculine,

which is the action in the building.

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And then there is the feminine, which

is the centering, which is the slowness,

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which is birthing, which is intuition.

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really we have to have both.

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We, we live in a 3D world, so we

have to be able to have action.

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I call it sacred action, but

we also have to have these

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moments where we're reflective.

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I taught leadership around the world.

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I.

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Several years ago and even,

um, so they're business people.

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A lot of 'em are C-suite people.

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And I said, you know, it's as simple

as just staring out a window in an

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executive office slows you down.

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And that is truly the

definition of mindfulness.

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If we pepper these opportunities

throughout our day, then not only,

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it's like giving yourself many

meditations throughout the day because

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meditation, I'm a big proponent of that.

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people say, I'm too busy for meditation.

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You're too busy not to meditate.

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so if you begin to.

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Take these one minutes here

and there throughout your day,

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you'll start to crave more.

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It is that mindfulness, and you can

be appreciative of doing the dishes.

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You can be appreciative of

gardening, you can be appreciative

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of walking in the park.

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There's so many juicy, delicious

moments in our life, we're just

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not paying attention to 'em.

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Why?

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Because we're busy.

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We're trying to get from this space to

this space in the shortest amount of time

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possible, and then I can't see what's

happening because I'm going so fast.

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Right?

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The physicality.

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It's a lot.

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Yeah.

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There's a lot of science.

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No, no.

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It's a, it's just, it is

a lot of neuroplasticity.

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Neuroscience.

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I love neuroscience.

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I love the brain.

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I love the body.

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I love the, the vessel

that we walk around in.

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And I, I've always appreciated my

body and I think I really began

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to appreciate it even more when

you're staring death in the face.

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You just have a different appreciation.

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And so just now moving through science,

and I've really loved understanding

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neuroscience and just put it in context

with this physical body that has all of

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these stored emotions and chemicals, and

then it's connected with a vagus nerve

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and it's just a big, beautiful, um.

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Um, I, I, I, uh, had a friend that went

to, um, Scientology years ago, and he

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calls, and I have, I find myself saying

this every once in a while, this meat

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stick that we walk around in, I mean, it's

just a, it's an amazing vessel, right?

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It's got all these different looks to

it, but the, in the reality, we're a

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meat stick with an AI on top of it,

and we're just navigating the world.

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But if we think about it that this

has so much electromagnetic energy

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that starts with the brain, but then

it's into the body that sends those

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frequencies out, that gives us the

opportunity to see the world the

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way we are, not who we want to be.

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This is outside, is a reflection

of what we are being today.

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And if we choose to see something

different in our life, we have to be

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something else, not do something else.

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100%.

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Yeah.

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And you know, that's

just the, the problem.

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Okay.

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It shows recording on my end still.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Yeah.

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Well, since they're the same coin, I

would say the best word to describe

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it would be a continuum or that

they're just, uh, interrelated.

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Because if you think about it

from a scientific perspective.

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That everything has a

frequency, everything.

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And we're learning that now.

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And medicine is now finally

catching up with that is.

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Uh, I think it's just been, you know,

hijacked by pharmaceutical companies.

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But let's just say like this tape

has a frequency, a literal frequency.

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It's a, it's a vibratory thing.

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Everything is a, is not

matter, it's energy.

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So this has a frequency, this

piece of paper has a frequency.

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This book has a frequency.

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We have a frequency, and our frequency

is predicated on a couple of those

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factors that you just shared.

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And it is the brainwave

frequencies, the alpha.

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The beta, the alpha, the theta, the delta.

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And so I became a hypnotherapist.

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Oh gosh, I was telling this to

somebody else the other day.

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can't believe it's over 30 years

ago, like:

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And that's when I really began to

learn about the brain frequency.

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So like everything is now, you

can have an E, K, G, an e, EG, and

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they can measure those frequencies.

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And so the slower the frequency in

your brain, we'll just use that one for

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the first part of this conversation.

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Um, beta is where the, we're in beta, most

of our, uh, uh, where waking life, right?

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So beta is like very, it's like staccato.

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It's like, and the higher your

stress level is, the more beta is.

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we wanna do is get into the

alpha, which is a slower brainwave

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pattern, if you've ever seen it.

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It's, you know, it's just like

looking at a, a sound graph.

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Once you get down to alpha and

then beta and theta, those are the

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receptivity, uh, brainwave patterns.

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So that's why hypnosis or meditation

allows you to begin to implant things

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that bypass your unconscious gateway,

because that's really what keeps us stuck.

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We're in beta, we're just repetitive.

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We're doing what the AI tells

us and we keep going forward.

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So if you think about that, that

is one level of frequency here.

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But we also have frequencies here.

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So frequencies come from not just

our thoughts, because thoughts can

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then the emotions that we have.

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They're really, again there, there's

an intersection called the vagus nerve.

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in your body, your frequencies, if

you are sad, right, you can feel

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the energy is different if you are.

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Exhilarated with joy.

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Those are frequencies.

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So there are all kinds of emotions.

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There's basically seven of them, but

then there's offshoots of them and

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the lower vibrational frequencies

give you lower vibrational outlook.

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So there are all the negative emotions.

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It's fear, it's greed, it's envy, it's all

the things that we say, you know, we don't

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really want, but we practice them anyways.

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And all of the other vibrations.

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Our love and communication and connection

and joy and happiness and all of those.

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So if we can continue to keep our body

in this upleveled vibrational state,

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and it's, it's born out by the old

Addus that says, Hey, did you wake up

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on the wrong side of the bed today?

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I know we've all had

this experience, right?

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For some reason we get out of bed, we

step on the kid's Legos, and now we're

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pissed and we're off to the races, right?

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The coffee maker doesn't work and the wife

is in a bad mood because it's her cycle.

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And you know, now you go to work

and your boss has had a fight with

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:

his wife and he's yelling and you

just, it's like, have I created this?

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created it because we are setting

up the vibrational because our

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aura is all vibration around us.

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It's this electromagnetic

energy, and if we're creating

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that, then we're drawing it in.

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It goes back to that.

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:

Thing that, uh, what's,

uh, the law of attraction?

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:

The secret that Rhonda Burns wrote,

it's, it's not about we're we are

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:

attracting it, but we're actually

absorbing the energy around us that's

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:

allowing us to see good or not so good.

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And the good news is, is we

can change it at any time.

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change it right after we hit the Legos

or stepped on the Legos, or we can

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change it when the coffee maker didn't

work or we can change it when, you

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know, the wife wasn't in a good mood.

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We get an opportunity, and I often use

the example of when somebody's going

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on a diet and then they blow it, right?

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Oh my gosh, I went to work and

there's donuts and I couldn't

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help and I ate a donut.

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Oh, I might as well give

up for the rest of the day.

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:

Right?

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But we have adopted that philosophy

that once we're down a path,

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we need to stay on that path.

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Path.

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The reality is, is that we are

at full choice at every second

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of every day to make a decision.

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How do I want that vibration

and that frequency to show up?

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And it's the higher the

vibration, the higher the

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frequency, the more good you see.

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And then if you see stuff, you know,

everybody's gonna have a family member

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die, or you're gonna run into an

automobile accident, events happen.

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then how do we choose to respond to that?

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How do we respond?

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Because that is what then drives

what else we're gonna see.

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Right.

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Mm-hmm.

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Right.

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Mm-hmm.

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:

So let's talk about that

though for a second too.

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Um, so when the first two chapters, um,

in the book are about identifying your

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money story, because here's the other

part of the, uh, brainwave patterns,

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and I'll talk about bin beats in a

second too, because those are fantastic.

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Okay.

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So, um.

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But what happens is when we

are between the age of one and

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:

eight, this is all science.

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I, when I, when I espouse these

things, I'm not making them up.

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They're all scientifically backed,

and I just don't quote the, the, the

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sources because it takes so long.

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But the fact is, is that between

age one and seven, our brains

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are in that alpha pattern.

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Which is the receptive pattern.

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This is when we're taking all the, it's

imagine, I always call this our ai.

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So if we program AI and we give

it the right information, it's

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always gonna be able to share

back what questions we're asking.

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That's why I love, I love AI

so much and it's just moving

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us in a different direction.

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But the fact is, is when we're one to

eight, we're downloading information we're

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:

making our judgements then and building

our stories about what life looks like.

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Then once you hit past day eight-ish,

you close the window, right?

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Then we go into that beta.

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So now what we do is we take all

the information and we begin to

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project, these are my beliefs.

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This is how the world operates.

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Now I'm going to create it

because we are the great creators.

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:

if you've got a money story.

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Because you're little, you know,

you're five or six and your

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parents are arguing over money and

there's not enough or money is bad.

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And you start hearing these

messages they download into

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your brain and into your system.

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And then you go out into life and

you project it out there and you

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don't even know that you're doing

it because we're just now having

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to prove what our stories are.

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'cause it's just a story.

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It's not the truth.

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So we grow up and now we become

people that say money is evil or

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money is the root of all evil.

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Or I can't make enough money

because my parents, you unravel

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your money story, you begin to see

why you believe what you believe.

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:

But everything in our life is a story and

usually it's a story that can be, um, ta

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uh, tailed back to when it originated.

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And you don't have to know the story.

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Or the root, you can still change.

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Sometimes it's, you know, it's relevant.

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:

So when we begin to look at what our

stories are, whether it's a story about

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an experience that I had, I don't like

elephants because I went to the circus

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and you know, he trampled on somebody.

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I mean, that could be a

story that we could create.

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Somebody else could have the same

experience and they just love elephants.

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So it's not about the experiences that

we have, it's not even necessarily

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about the reaction, because once we're

an adult, we're just reacting to a

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story that we've already committed to.

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So if we begin to look at our life

as just a series of stories that

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we've told ourselves, that's when we

are empowered to change the story.

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So with binaural beats, what that allows

us to do is to get into an alpha state.

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Because I've had this, uh,

conversation with so many people,

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I just can't settle my mind.

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My mind is too busy.

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I can't meditate.

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I'm like, okay, you can meditate

and you don't have to do it.

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The way that you believe that

you've been told to by now beats.

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:

I discovered them probably 20 years

ago, and another science aspect.

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basically the.

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Easiest way to describe a binaural beat

is a, um, a frequency is going in one ear.

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You have two headphones with it.

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One ear say it's at four, uh, beats

per second, and this one's at three.

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What happens is your brain has to

reconcile it, and while it's doing that,

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it takes you, and the first time I ever

heard about binaural beats, it said

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it takes you immediately to that same

state of mind that Tibetan monks get in.

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And I went, well, I'm all on that program.

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Please sign me up.

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:

And what I discovered is that

it works and it is absolutely

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phenomenal how deeply you can get

into meditation if you use bin beats.

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But there's so much of it on the,

uh, YouTube and the internet now that

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sometimes I question whether or not

they're really truly, I've created my own.

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But it is so fascinating how we can

just allow the brain to more or less

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just center and link into what is

that true, receptive energy, which

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is Alpha Theta and Delta waves.

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So I love Bin Beats.

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I recommend them for everybody.

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I've talked about 'em probably ad

nauseum for 20 years they are fabulous.

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And most of my meditations that

I share with my clients have a

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have a binaural beat under lane.

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Because if you hear a binaural beat,

it's like, so you have generally

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meditation music on top of it.

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You created your own.

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:

Yeah.

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It's just putting two frequencies

together so that they have to

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reconcile in each side of your ear.

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It's, it's, nope, it is.

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It's, uh, it's, it's underneath it.

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:

But when you do, when you create

music, if you've ever done that on

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Audacity or something, you have tracks.

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So I'll have a, um, a guided

meditation tracked, and then a

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sound, a beautiful meditation track.

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And then the binary track underneath

your brain only hears the binary, though

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:

from that, uh, reconciliation point.

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:

I do, I have, I, I actually have

not, I just created the opt-in

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funnel 'cause I was gonna give away

my divine wealth activator, which

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you can get at just typing in the

url, divine wealth activator.com.

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And I'll send it to you.

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:

And if you want to, um,

actually just do that.

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:

It's not on my website yet.

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:

I just, I created this, um.

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The I, the binaural beat one,

the seven minute one that I

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:

shared in the very beginning that

everything's working in your favor.

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:

I created that probably less

than six weeks ago for a course

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:

that I created for the book.

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:

So I haven't it out to the public, but if

they do, if they join or if they wanna,

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:

uh, get the divine wealth activator.com,

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:

just divine wealth activator.com.

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:

then that also is an amazing

tool to activate abundance.

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:

That's the the thing I

wanted to share with them.

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:

And they'll just be on my list and I

will send that out to them because it's

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:

really, really amazing how, how much,

how deep you go into meditation just

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:

by having binaural beats underneath.

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:

I know

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:

I made mine.

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Mine are mine, so nobody

can take them away from me.

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:

Yeah, it's that one or this one I

just, I just found a website or got a

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URL that said Divine wealth activator.

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:

'cause I thought it was easier

to say queen of magic da da da

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:

backslash just can be confusing.

623

:

So either one of those will take

you to the exact same place.

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:

Fantastic.

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:

Mm-hmm.

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:

Oh Lord.

627

:

Well, let's see.

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:

I'll just say religion is dogmatic.

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:

spirituality is consciousness

the way I perceive spirituality.

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:

we're all conscious, all, my, my version

of spirituality is that we're all one.

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:

the end of the story.

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:

So if we're all one, then we're

all, you know, seeing each other as

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:

godliness, walking around the planet.

634

:

And religion is very much, and I have some

amazing friends and I've studied religion,

635

:

that there are some beautiful essences of,

most religions, probably all I should say.

636

:

And they all have this common

golden thread that run through

637

:

them, which is spirituality.

638

:

It's the dogma that sandwiches

them together that sometimes

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:

can be off putting to people.

640

:

Um, but I know people in every religion I.

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:

That are as spiritual as all get out.

642

:

Because when you begin to

really dive into the essence of

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:

spirituality, it is consciousness.

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:

And that's what I believe

we're all headed for.

645

:

Um, ultimately, wherever consciousness

is, it could be heaven, it

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:

could be, you know, nothingness.

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:

It could be the black holes.

648

:

I'm not sure.

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:

I haven't been there exactly yet,

but I know when I meditate, I go

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:

into these beautiful, magical places.

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:

Spirituality is about oneness

and consciousness to me.

652

:

They do.

653

:

Mm-hmm.

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:

And, and also rituals are a good thing.

655

:

You know, they keep us, um,

in community with one another.

656

:

So, so for instance, um, you know,

in the religion, I mean in the

657

:

Christianity or in Judaism or Kabbalah,

are these beautiful rituals that

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:

there's nothing wrong with rituals.

659

:

As a matter of fact, they keep you

centered and going in a forward direction.

660

:

The Catholics, I just went to a my

nephew's wedding at a Catholic church,

661

:

and they have all these little rituals

that they did, and they're just beautiful.

662

:

And so there's nothing wrong with religion

until it becomes a block to allowing your

663

:

heart to be opened and seeing the oneness.

664

:

Because truly at the end of the

day, that whole thing, seeing your

665

:

brother as yourself or treat your

brother, your neighbor as yourself,

666

:

it really is just about seeing

every human being on the planet.

667

:

a version of you and that term, Namaste.

668

:

I love so much from yoga, which is

where, I mean, it's not only from

669

:

yoga, it's an Indian term, but it says,

the God in me greets the God in you.

670

:

That's what that is.

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:

So if we begin to look at everybody,

then we don't have this separation

672

:

because it's the separation that

destroys the idea of our oneness.

673

:

We are truly one, and we're unique

individual expressions of that

674

:

one, which is even more beautiful

because that means we're special.

675

:

We're special, yet we're one.

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:

So I love that whole concept.

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:

I.

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:

What the heck is that right?

679

:

No, you're right.

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:

It is, it's a big word.

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:

Cognitive.

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:

Cognitive distortion.

683

:

So it is, um, an easier phraseology.

684

:

And I also have a chapter in the

book called about languaging.

685

:

Our abundance languaging when

we begin to pay attention.

686

:

And, and everything that I

teach is about awareness.

687

:

You have to have an awareness of what's

happening to you and how you operate.

688

:

And I can't remember what you said

at the very beginning or maybe I

689

:

was looking at your, um, podcast,

but, I, there was a book by.

690

:

I forget who it was, but it

was called the owner's manual.

691

:

Like we have no idea.

692

:

I believe that there needs

to be an owner owner's manual

693

:

for how we as humans operate.

694

:

That's given to us in the delivery room.

695

:

Like we don't have any idea, we're

just trying to figure it out.

696

:

And so now there's a lot of

information, but those stories,

697

:

whether they're cognitive, the way

you describe them, or I call 'em a

698

:

money story, they're just stories.

699

:

That's all they are.

700

:

And I use this example, there was a

gentleman on a documentary I was watching

701

:

not too long ago, and it was about

people having traumatic experiences.

702

:

Literally a lady was completely

burned from head to toe.

703

:

And you know, we can all come

through these horrific experiences.

704

:

But this one gentleman was hit by

a semi-truck, I think he might've

705

:

been on a bike he was devastated.

706

:

He almost, he almost did die.

707

:

And he resented the person

that hit him for years.

708

:

we get to the point in the story where

he's talking to a therapist and he says,

709

:

got hit by a truck and I almost died.

710

:

And the therapist said,

you got hit by a truck.

711

:

He's like, and I almost died.

712

:

And the therapist said,

you got hit by a truck.

713

:

And he says, and I almost died.

714

:

And the therapist, this is the first time

that he'd ever had someone confront him.

715

:

And he said, but you're

sitting right here.

716

:

He says, you got hit by a truck.

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:

after that is a story.

718

:

this is what happens because we're little,

we don't have the cognitive ability that

719

:

we do when we're 23 or 45 or 80, right?

720

:

But we've taken that story as if we

were this little 8-year-old and still

721

:

perpetuated it over and over and over,

whether it's the elephant at the zoo or

722

:

in the circus, or it's our money stories.

723

:

And until we begin to unravel that

and see, oh my gosh, how many times

724

:

have I told this story to myself?

725

:

And one of my favorite authors is

Byron Katie, who wrote a book called

726

:

Loving What Is, and she has four

questions that you ask yourself

727

:

about any belief that you have.

728

:

Because my opinion is, is that

everyone should question all of their

729

:

beliefs because that's how you grow.

730

:

Her question is, is, is this true?

731

:

Right?

732

:

Whatever it is.

733

:

So let's just use money

as the root of all evil.

734

:

Money is the root of all evil.

735

:

That's my belief.

736

:

The next question is, can you

unequivocally prove that that's true?

737

:

no one can.

738

:

You can't because there's other

people that don't believe it.

739

:

So any belief that you

have is based on a story.

740

:

And if we begin to delve into our

stories, whether we call 'em cognitive

741

:

we call 'em stories, it's the same thing.

742

:

It's just the story.

743

:

And if we began to break down what

the, where the story came from, what's

744

:

the experience that I had, and just

extract the ex experience, that's it.

745

:

Now, does that work simply for

maybe PTSD or something like that?

746

:

No, but here's the thing is PTSD

is also landed in the body, and

747

:

there's all kinds of modalities

now that they're coming up with.

748

:

But the fact is, is

that it's still a story.

749

:

And so when you can separate the

experience away from the story, then you

750

:

have the ability to create another story.

751

:

But yes, I agree with you 100%.

752

:

I,

753

:

mm-hmm.

754

:

Um, you know, I really, I like to

share that story because it really

755

:

gives people an opportunity to see

that I, I've had success in my life

756

:

and I've, I know how to create wealth.

757

:

And at the same time, they'll say

if, um, somebody wins the lottery

758

:

and they don't know how to create

wealth, that they'll lose their, their

759

:

winnings in whatever period of time.

760

:

That really truly is.

761

:

So I had, I have a abundance

and a money consciousness.

762

:

I already have that.

763

:

And so it's not as if that was my

first rodeo of not having any money.

764

:

Um, 2008 was a perfect example because,

you know, life happens, events happen.

765

:

That was a worldwide event in 2008,

and everything I had was tied to the

766

:

real estate and mortgage industry.

767

:

But the fact is, is that you are

stripped away, and this time was just a

768

:

little bit in my, my feeling for myself

was different because I just stripped

769

:

away everything that didn't matter.

770

:

Like literally I had no money.

771

:

I was on food stamps and I was literally.

772

:

So sick I could barely get out of bed.

773

:

But it also gave me this beautiful

opportunity self-reflect on a much

774

:

deeper level than I ever have before.

775

:

And to realize that so much of the, things

that are going on with us are in our body.

776

:

And to say that cancer saved my

life sounds really incongruent on

777

:

so many levels yet that really is

truly, I've never been happier.

778

:

I've never been healthier, I've never

been wealthier than since that time.

779

:

And it truly began with the

incubation of just being me.

780

:

Like there wasn't any, I

was, I lived by myself.

781

:

California when this was going on,

and I also was able to see how amazing

782

:

manifestation, if that's the word

that we wanna use, so that people can

783

:

understand it, is available to all of us.

784

:

doctors came, I had the best

doctors, I had the best surgeons.

785

:

Um, I had the best medical treatment

that just came out of nowhere.

786

:

Literally, I, when I

was diagnosed, I went.

787

:

Okay, I don't have insurance.

788

:

What am I gonna do?

789

:

that just, they just started coming.

790

:

Um, people were showing

up to give me food.

791

:

People were showing up to take care

of my, um, cat when I had to go

792

:

into the hospital for surgeries.

793

:

Uh, I had the most amazing nurses.

794

:

And so it was just this blend of really

being, once again, going back to the

795

:

whole gratitude thing, that I could be

so grateful for a time in my life that

796

:

so many people would've said, wow, I

don't want to be in this experience.

797

:

And yet I just blessed

it every step of the way.

798

:

few days were.

799

:

We're probably what

everyone will experience.

800

:

If they've ever had the cancer diagnosis.

801

:

I thought, oh my gosh, I'm gonna die.

802

:

And then as soon as I got over

that, because then you're, I'm

803

:

not afraid of death anymore.

804

:

It's like, if that's

inevitable, that will be fine.

805

:

And yet, what is the, what

is the real true meaning of

806

:

being here on planet Earth?

807

:

And it is about having

freedom to do what you want.

808

:

Money will always come.

809

:

And if you do not find that sense

of gratitude and appreciation and

810

:

happiness within yourself, it isn't

something that's outside of you.

811

:

And I watched a documentary on the

weekend Har Harvey Levin, you know, Mr.

812

:

Hollywood Guy, and he was

doing a thing on Justin Bieber.

813

:

He kept saying throughout this piece,

Justin Bieber made between a half

814

:

a billion and a billion dollars and

he's broke, but he's so unhappy.

815

:

isn't about the stuff.

816

:

It never is like, I got great stuff,

don't get me wrong, and it's nice.

817

:

And yet I know if you can

be happy with nothing.

818

:

That is the true essence of

being an inner billionaire.

819

:

It really truly is.

820

:

And from that, and I've taught

this principle for decades, but

821

:

more now since I wrote the book

about gratitude is the gateway.

822

:

And if you get really grad

grateful for where you are

823

:

right now, then things happen.

824

:

I say it's magical, but it's not.

825

:

It's just a reflection of your inner self.

826

:

So basically though, as I said, I, I work

mostly with women even though I've got

827

:

some beautiful men that have a lot of f.

828

:

I mean that feminine energy from

the fact that they have soulfulness.

829

:

It's not that they're, you know,

this, but anyways, um, so I do

830

:

teach women how to build soulful

businesses because at the end of the

831

:

day, you cannot build any business.

832

:

And this is the thing I think that

triggered me from the very beginning

833

:

was I would watch things in the

middle of the night about, you can

834

:

make so much money with real estate

and I'm gonna teach you this program.

835

:

And the fact is, is that what I would

see is people would try that, but they

836

:

don't have the consciousness, they

don't have the abundance consciousness.

837

:

So that's why I invite everybody

to, um, get the book because

838

:

that will begin the foundation of

allowing yourself to receive more.

839

:

Because most people have

a receiving problem.

840

:

about anything else other than

the fact that their worthiness

841

:

quotient of receiving is blocked.

842

:

So I teach women how to build businesses,

um, uh, double their income in 90 days.

843

:

Um, I've got a time vendor process

that I've just recently created

844

:

that helps you bend time so that

you create more time for yourself.

845

:

Because what we do is we live in this

world of stress and overwhelm and all

846

:

of that is keeping us from our good.

847

:

So now with all this AI help, we should

be having these lives that are much

848

:

more expansive and I still, people still

see people working harder and longer.

849

:

So to find out more about anything, you

can put, uh, the debbie dobbins.com,

850

:

that's my website, and it'll

lead you to some of the programs.

851

:

But I would say the best thing

you can do right now is opt in

852

:

for the divine wealth activator.

853

:

Just type in divine wealth activator.com.

854

:

It'll take you, take you there, and it's a

great jumpstart to begin to start building

855

:

that consciousness for wealth building.

856

:

Yeah, so one of the things I start

out in the course with the Ignite, I

857

:

call it Ignite your Inner Billionaire.

858

:

So we take the, the book and, and do

it in a course, and anybody can do

859

:

this just by this simple instruction.

860

:

I call it future journaling, but

there's not a journal involved.

861

:

So everyone has a, has one of these,

they have a phone, and the reason I use

862

:

this, you don't call anybody, but it

doesn't feel weird if you talk into it.

863

:

Like if you hold your phone up

and you talk, you don't look like

864

:

you're a crazy person on the corner.

865

:

so basically just act as if

with that frequency, pick up

866

:

your phone and act like or.

867

:

Imagine that you're talking

to a friend about your future.

868

:

So I woke up today and you can't

believe the deal that I got.

869

:

Oh my gosh, everybody is so

excited to be working with me.

870

:

Or you can't believe this new brand new

house that I just went into contract on.

871

:

So future journaling is just about being

in the present moment as if it's happening

872

:

right now, but letting that energetic,

um, feeling come up into your body.

873

:

You can do it anywhere, anytime, and

even if people are listening to you,

874

:

they don't know who you're talking to.

875

:

So that's one little wonderful

trick and tip that I can share.

876

:

Gratitude is the gateway.

877

:

100%.

878

:

Um, we talked about that enough,

but gratitude just begin right now.

879

:

Practicing gratitude and then giving.

880

:

Giving is really an important

ingredient to building.

881

:

Abundance, whatever you're giving.

882

:

So when I talk about abundance,

it's a holistic approach.

883

:

So it's abundance of relationships, it's

abundance of wealth, it's abundance of

884

:

health, it's abundance of spirituality.

885

:

So there we do a wheel and, and we

talk about all areas of your life.

886

:

If you want more of whatever you

say you want more of, give it away.

887

:

So let's say you want more

love, give more love away.

888

:

You want more money.

889

:

And I'm not talking about it from

the perspective of obligation.

890

:

'cause I have a lot of times people

share with me, oh, I give 20% and

891

:

they're doing it out of obligation

because they've learned it.

892

:

That's part of their money story.

893

:

I like to do is give the, a new

technique of giving from the

894

:

perspective of your right hand does

not know what your left hand is doing.

895

:

Because when you give, you have to give

freely and without anybody knowing it.

896

:

So I have a whole series of techniques

that we use in the book and in my courses.

897

:

Of how to give.

898

:

That's fun.

899

:

Literally.

900

:

Um, when we do this activity,

people get so excited about it.

901

:

I could go leave, um, a, an envelope

of, of money at a park, at a swing where

902

:

I know moms go that need help, right?

903

:

But I'm not there watching anybody get it.

904

:

When you give, it's releasing it into

the universe any expectation of return

905

:

or how somebody's going to deal with it.

906

:

I used to do this years

and years and years ago.

907

:

I would take a card, a beautiful

card, and I would write a note.

908

:

You know, is just godly universe saying,

you know, you're loved or whatever.

909

:

And I put a hundred dollars bill in it,

and I would drive through a neighborhood.

910

:

I would look at like that person looks

like they might want money, and I hand

911

:

it to them and then I would drive away.

912

:

And the key was, I would never

look in the rear view mirror

913

:

to see what their reaction was.

914

:

Because here's the thing, is that

we get attached to our giving

915

:

when the reality is, is if we just

give with no expectation, that's

916

:

when the real magic happens.

917

:

So those are my three.

918

:

Do a future journal.

919

:

Gratitude, gratitude, gratitude,

and giving away with no expectation.

920

:

Exactly.

921

:

Yeah.

922

:

Right.

923

:

Yeah.

924

:

For yourself, for right.

925

:

We're never forgiving

for the other person.

926

:

We're always giving for our

forgiving for ourselves.

927

:

I think one of the things that came

up for me when you were talking about

928

:

Stephen Covey is it's really, really

if, if people begin to make this shift,

929

:

even though I wasn't expecting to

share this, but you triggered me with

930

:

Stephen Covey, he says, seek first

to understand, then to be understood.

931

:

I think in the world that we live in

today, if we could just practice that

932

:

then that would make a better world.

933

:

And then one of the other things that,

um, I often share with people and.

934

:

And ask myself when I'm in a challenging

situation or somebody's pushing

935

:

my buttons, is what would love do?

936

:

And if you ask yourself when

you're in the middle of customer

937

:

service, people are always the ones

that get me a little triggered.

938

:

know, I have to stop and

go, what would love do?

939

:

Love wouldn't yell at them.

940

:

So I think those two things seek first

to understand and then to be understood.

941

:

And then what would love

do in this circumstance?

942

:

And, um, if you haven't read Stephen

Covey's book, then go read the story

943

:

where he talks about that with the, um, it

makes me cry every time I think about it.

944

:

The guy on the train with the kids, right?

945

:

We never know.

946

:

We never know what someone else is going

through and we judge it as if we do.

947

:

And so if we seek to understand,

if we just begin to practice that

948

:

one thing, life will become better.

949

:

And um, my book is available on Amazon if

you want to go check it out there as well.

950

:

Right.

951

:

Um.

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